Strong & Surging Ahead : ARUN SOOD

In 1989, the brutal massacre of 25 people at the RSS Shakha in his hometown Moga (Punjab), was a traumatic, life-changing episode. He was 18-year-old back then. The loss of a close friend in that tragic incident shook him badly. However, he was astounded at the grit and determination of Swayamsevak’s who attended a Shakha the next day, at the same spot, standing close to a pool of blood! He instantly knew where he belonged and wanted to be one among those fearless Swayamsevak’s.

Meet the youngest State Head of Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) in Chandigarh, Mr Arun Sood, who surges ahead fearlessly, a virtue he owned from his early life. Here is a conversation between this young leader (now 50) and The Lifestyle Journalist Editor-in-Chief Dr Neha Miglani.

Please walk us through your journey.

My parents, who worked in the education department, shifted to Chandigarh in 1981 when I was in fifth grade. During the terrorism days in Punjab, I often wondered as a child- why this atrocity, why these killings? It used to disturb me constantly. The massacre in my birthplace Moga (Punjab), in 1989 shook me badly. I lost a classmate in the bloodshed. I knew instantly I belong here (to RSS)- to the clan of fearless men who contribute to the nation and society without fear.

In 1989, I joined Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS) and later the student organisation Akhil Bharatiya Vidyarthi Parishad, ABVP, from 1990 till 2000. I studied in DAV College, Chandigarh and assumed various posts as a student leader. I was the State Secretary of ABVP, and during the terrorism days (1992-1996), I joined Guru Nanak Dev University, Amritsar, to pursue LLB. I had the option of doing an MBA, MCA and LLB from Panjab
University, Chandigarh, but I was sent (by the organisation) to contribute in GNDU. I returned in 1996, and the first student elections happened in Panjab University, Chandigarh, following our agitation. I began practising law in the Punjab and Haryana High Court in 1997.

From 2000-2003, I was heading the BJP Youth Wing as the Punjab State General Secretary. However, in 2003 I left politics because somehow I found myself a misfit. I was connected to other allied social organisations, including Akhil Bharatiya Adhivakta Parishad, VHP and Swadeshi Jagran Mach.

Later in 2007, on the intervention and insistence of Sh. Manohar Lal Khattar, the then North India BJP Organising Secretary, I joined back politics. He wanted to bring new faces to the party to revive the party in the region. In 2010 I was given the responsibility of State General Secretary. In December 2011, on the direction of the party high command, I contested elections for councillor. In 2013, when nobody was willing to contest the elections for the post of Mayor in Chandigarh from our party (since we were in a weak position, and it was a
known fact that we would lose), on the directions of the party, I contested and lost. I then resolved that I shall compete again for the post and win. I fought again in 2016 for the post of Mayor and won. With determination, we fought the election and turned impossible into possible. After 15 years, BJP had its Mayor in the city. Ironically, I had barely ten months to work as a Mayor- since I joined on January 8, 2016, and the code of conduct was imposed on November 14, 2016. Despite the time restraint, the city got 50 projects in these ten months, which was unprecedented. I got Rs 300 crore special grant for the city from the centre
government.

A project very close to my heart- 29 MGD of raw water (Waterwork supply, phase 5 and 6) from Kajauli waterworks, which began in 2016 and was completed in 2019, was commenced during my tenure as Mayor. This project is significant since it solved the water problem in the city for 100 years to come! It particularly eased the demand of residents during peak summers. In 2019, when the project was being delayed, I visited Kajauli waterworks personally 42 times and got it completed. The Manimajra underpass project, which was another significant move, was initiated by me. It provided relief to nearly 2 lac commuters who passed through the level crossing and faced substantial traffic snarls daily. Because of all this development work, since 2016, BJP has been coming to power in the city. I was elected MC councillor twice and once as Mayor. On January 17, 2020, I was elected as BJP’s youngest head in the state.

Top 3 reforms for the city on your mind.

Better sewerage system for the city by doing away with the existing brick wall system. Better stormwater drainage systems and laying new water pipes are all essential issues.It has been 60 years of its existence; the city must now move towards a democratic status. The bureaucrats who are posted here are from Punjab and Haryana cadres. The city must have people who can understand the issues and feel the pain. The deputation system must be done away with now. There is no political say, and therefore people’s problems cannot be
taken up appropriately. There is no legislative assembly here. Municipal Corporation has no real powers, and the Mayor is toothless! The Mayor must have financial and executive powers both to bring about concrete development. Similar to Puducherry, there must be a strong democratic establishment. Even Kolkata has a Mayor-in-Council. Chandigarh needs to be maintained by its people. Most importantly, the people here need to develop a strong sense of ownership and belongingness. I urge them to fight for a democratic set up in the city.

Message to People of Chandigarh
“People of this city need to awaken a sense of belongingness from within. The collective
consciousness has to awaken. It is the 4th generation of the city now, and it’s time that we
fight for a democratic setup. The deputation system must be done away with. Chandigarh
must have its own unique identity, and residents must fight for it.”

What are your political aspirations?

None! This was not my profession (politics). I am here to contribute and work for the betterment of society. I am very passionate about it, and it has been my childhood dream. Whatever has happened to me in my political career so far has been largely unplanned, and I have not asked for it.

What changes do you experience as a commoner (not as a politician) under India’s
Prime Minister Narendra Modi Ji’s leadership?

Firstly, the swiftness and efficiency with which the government handled the Covid-19 pandemic is commendable. We had no resources when the first wave hit India. Immediately, a lockdown was imposed, and medical infrastructure was put in place to combat the pandemic. Given the massive size of our country, we initially had no N-95 masks, equipment, ventilators, and just one testing lab. But it was the far-sightedness of the government that from one testing lab, we can now do more than 20 lac tests per day. The pandemic was turned into an opportunity, and India is now supplying medical infrastructure to the world. Not just medically, but the government was supporting people financially too. For ten months, free ration was given and even now, from April 2021 till Diwali, free ration is being provided. So unlike many other countries, here in India, the situation was addressed finically too. In January 2020, the first Covid-19 case surfaced, and by March 2020, a nod was given to create the vaccine. Within nine months, we already had our indigenous vaccination. Our vaccination drive has been an example setter.

Secondly, we have moved towards a corruption-free and transparent government, which was not the case earlier.

Thirdly, the manner in which India is viewed globally has completely changed ever since Sh. Narendra Modi ji took over. Our global reputation and stature have changed. Red carpets are rolled, and protocols are broken to welcome our PM; this is a significant change. Our defence forces have become stronger; the manner in which conflict with China is being tackled is a case in point. Small issues, which could have been resolved easily in the last 70 years but were never paid attention to, have now got a headway under the current leadership. Be it creation of toilets, supply of electricity to 18,000 villages of India, ‘housing for all’ by 2022 under Pradhan Mantri Awas Yojna, Pradhan Mantri Beema Yojna, digitisation of revenue records, and many others. ‘Swacchh Bharat Abyaan’ itself has brought a significant shift.

Do you counsel your children on education and career? How do you deal with them?

My children are brilliant and get a scholar badge in every class. They are free to choose whatever career they want to. My son wanted to take up Mathematics and Economics since both were his strong subjects. My daughter has a strong inclination towards creative abilities. We discuss with them their interests and eventually want them to choose for themselves. I am blessed with a supportive family. My wife, Ambika, is a working parent and yet manages to take care of everyone. I am fully satisfied with my life, and that is a great motivation to do something for others. I feel that one must work for the larger good- for the betterment of society, for a bigger cause. I want to instil these values in my children, irrespective of whatever profession they enter.

Standing (L-R) Akshad (Son), Arun Sood Sitting (L-R) Akshadha (Daughter), Ambika Sood

Message to his family
“It has been my childhood dream to serve people and society. However, with marriage and children, our responsibilities multiply, and I know I am not able to give enough time to my family. But I want to say that all the blessings of people, who benefit from whatever good happens in city or society, will come back to you manifold. It is because of them (my family) that I can contribute to others’ lives. My children are very intelligent, and my wife is a tremendous pillar of strength for the family. She is a working parent and yet manages to take care of everyone.”

Mr Dharam Pal, Advisor to Chandigarh Administrator

“I am not here to pass time;

I am here to contribute,

as best as I can.”

Mr Dharam Pal, Senior IAS Officer Advisor to Chandigarh Administrator

His presence exudes grace and dignity, firmness and gentleness- all packed together. A
gentleman, a taskmaster, a team-spirited person, a fitness enthusiast, ecologically conscious, and
a warm person at heart- these adjectives attempt to describe his profound persona. His dignified
smile coupled with silence and his sunglasses- well, he carries them effortlessly!
The new Advisor to Chandigarh Administrator and senior IAS officer appears very clear in
his mind when he says that he is here to contribute! After a long stint in New Delhi and a special
assignment with the UN in the Republic of Kosovo (in addition to many other significant
assignments), he is back to the city where he spent his engineering days. Enveloped by the
strength of his lovely family, he is all set to bring about some people-friendly reforms in the
system.

Here is an interesting conversation between Mr Dharam Pal, Advisor to UT Administrator
and Dr Neha Miglani, Editor-in-Chief of The Lifestyle Journalist Magazine.

What are your top agendas for the city?

The major thrust areas will be infrastructure, health and education. The focus is, however, on
COVID-19 management at the moment. In the wake of a third wave warning, we are checking
our preparations. Additionally, we are also working on solid waste management for the city. We
need to devise a way such that no unprocessed item goes to the dumpsite. We expect to do this
under the ‘Swachh Bharat Abyaan Scheme’ and utilise those funds appropriately. Even
construction waste (the demolition waste) has to be converted to usable items to ensure that it
doesn’t cause harm to the environment. The developmental goals for the city will be achieved
keeping in mind the ecological balance. The essence of the beautiful city must remain intact.

Any major reforms that you would like to see in coming times concerning people’s
problems?

I feel that the system needs to be made more approachable and friendly through the internet and
web applications. ‘Faceless Service’ is the need of the hour. It is already happening, but we can
strengthen it further. Common people cannot reach top bureaucrats so easily; hence accessibility
through government portals is a fair idea to address their concerns. For this, the IT sector needs
to be strengthened, and some additional systems need to be put in place.

Secondly, I am in favour of simplifying the procedures for the general public. Too many
complicated procedures often confuse people. ‘Hassle-free service’ for the common people is my
priority.

“I like to help people as much as possible. If the demand is genuine, I make sure that it is rightfully done. I aim to contribute positively.”

For the bureaucrats, any reforms that the political leadership must keep in mind?

We are in a democracy where people elect their representatives. Policies are executed in close
synchronisation with elected leaders in a democracy. There are certain parameters that each
government lays down when they come into power, and we as bureaucrats love to work in sync
with those for the smooth functioning of the system. Bureaucracy, like any other system, is a
machinery. A trained driver would know how to drive it well!

In your opinion, what has been the role of Indian bureaucrats in handling the COVID-19
pandemic crisis?

Bureaucrats are excellent managers of emergent situations. Crisis management is a part of their
job. During the second wave of COVID-19 in India, the health system and medical infrastructure
came under tremendous stress. Nobody could anticipate the dire need for oxygen. COVID-19
management is a top priority of senior officials in all states, and in close coordination with the
government, bureaucrats are working on it.

What is your message to your subordinates?

Everyone must work as a team and in coherence; only then good work happens. All officers are
playing different roles, but they should gel as a team. Teamwork is the key to productivity. So I
would suggest my team to stick to their targets.
We are working towards a 100-day program now, in which we have decided on short term goals,
mid-term goals and long term goals for the city. So departments and officers must work in a
goal-oriented manner. That is how we can surge ahead and eventually measure our real progress.

You are a PEC University of Technology alumnus. Do you have any plans (for its
development) on your mind?

For sure! The restructuring of the Board of Governors is already in the pipeline. We will indeed
do whatever is required to restore its glory. PEC is certainly on my mind. I shall closely work
with the management to understand the needs and resolve any concerns that they have in future.

(Standing) – (Left to Right) Mr Bhuvanesh Pal (Son), Mr Dharam Pal
(Sitting) — (Left to Right) Mrs Shivani Govil Pal (Daughter-in-law), Ms Ridhima Pal (Daughter), Mrs Anita Pal (Wife)

What is your life philosophy?

It is challenging for people to reach us due to the obvious nature of our job and seniority. But
when someone does, I like to help them as much as possible. If the demand is genuine, I make
sure that it is rightfully done. I aim to contribute positively.

How do you de-stress yourself?

I do not come under stress generally. I love to do Yoga for an hour, and like to take a long walk
in the evening, whenever time permits. Recently, we did a long trek behind Sukhna Lake; all
these physical activities are a de-stressor for me.

What is your personal goal at the moment?

I love to jog, walk, do Yoga, cycle and play badminton. Keeping in view the COVID-19
situation in the city, I will soon restart my fitness regime. Unfortunately, we do not get much
time from work, but this is my personal goal for now!

What is your take on the new Online Education mode that came into force during the
pandemic?

Rather than no class, taking online classes was an excellent idea during the pandemic. There is a
loss of personal touch, I agree, but online teaching is not that bad. It has made education
accessible to everyone. An inquisitive rural student, sitting in a remote village, can access world-
class teachers now! It is a positive development in my view. Of course, there is no substitute for
campus life, and the facilities available in an educational institute are missed by students online.
Still, given the situation, this was the best alternate that educational institutes could adopt.

What is your advice to youngsters, be it IAS aspirants or engineering students?

There is no shortcut to success. Hard work is the key! They must focus on their goal, engage in
extra-curricular activities and move ahead with determination. Hard work has no substitute.

Message to Subordinates
“Teamwork is the key to productivity. Work as a team and stick to your targets.”

Juggling with Grace
Mrs Anita Pal

She is an educationist by profession and currently heading a school in Delhi as a Principal. A working spouse who manages to juggle her personal and professional duties gracefully! Her passion is parenting and education, while also managing to steal time for ‘Art on silk medium’. Mrs Anita is known among her peers for being an excellent parenting coach, and that, she concurs, is her passion!
“Sometimes parents come to school with certain issues in their mind. But the moment they meet me, their anger and doubts vanish. My colleagues wonder and often ask me what magic did I do!” she shares humbly. Her son and daughter-in-law are pass-outs from IIM- Lucknow, and her daughter recently completed her Bachelor Degree in English honours from Delhi University.

ADAPTING TO CHANGE DURING COVID-19 PANDEMIC

Mrs Anjli Sharma, Principal, St Soldier International Convent School, Mohali (Punjab) shares an interesting note on how teachers adapted to the change phenomenally

The deadly COVID-19 pandemic has brought a drastic change in the work environment across all industries, and teaching was no exception. In March 2020, the country had shut its doors to control the spread of the Coronavirus, but the teaching community had gone an extra mile to battle the pandemic.

“Our teachers are no less than Corona warriors since they have been holding the guard and working tirelessly ever since the first lockdown took place,” says Mrs. Anjli Sharma, Principal, St Soldier International Convent School, Mohali (Punjab).

“Our teachers have embraced the unprecedented situation with positivity and used it as a growth opportunity. They leapt incredibly with commitment and creativity into this new way of online, producing online curricula. During lockdown, they are confronted with ever-increasing obligatory meetings and training sessions. Their work had increased tremendously compared to a working day that used to run from 7.30 am to around 2 pm,” she adds.
Elucidating how parents constantly observed the teachers during online classes, Mrs. Anjli shares how the teachers have dealt with a constant barrage of links, passwords, Google classroom, Zoom, hangout, conducting classes, meeting sessions, PTMs, and what not!

“I think the lockdown has not only adversely impacted the economy and employment opportunities but also one’s state of mind,” cites Mrs. Anjli.

She emphasizes how stimulating activities like walking, reading, dancing or singing are the need of the hour. And despite the transition of medium from real-time classrooms to the online platform, every scheduled activity mentioned in the school calendar was conducted by their school. The best way, she concurs, was to have holistic well-being in which they ensured that student’s emotional well-being and intellectual excellence are taken care of.
“Our school has undertaken a great leap by conducting its first-ever National Online E-Waste to Wealth Competition. From table tennis online training session to cleanliness drive, we have been doing it all,” she adds.

ROLE OF A MOTHER
“Whatever I learned from my mother, I tried to imbibe that and transfer the same kind of love and affection to not just my biological child but also 1800 + students of the school. This is a bigger role. We understand our students and read in between the lines of lame excuses, recognize their naughty deeds. Even though not connected biologically but we are connected emotionally,” says Mrs. Anjli Sharma.
“Behind the success and growth of any child, there is a mother who stayed awake day and night to bring his dreams to reality. Right from teaching to walk, eat, speak, and write, she is always there for you. We should thank our mothers for being the constant support and guide for what we are today,” she adds.

No Substitute to Mother’s Love

MOTHER’, ‘MOM’, ‘MAA’, ‘AMMA’- the words for the most beautiful soul have a rich connotation of love and warmth. Without her, none of us would have been here!

It is a common saying that God couldn’t be present everywhere, so he created mothers. Such is the significance of mothers that even the gods needed mothers at a certain point in time during their earthly ‘avatars’.
The role of a mother in raising a child is very significant. Their relationship is the most beautiful and inseparable bond in this world. She is the first person who handholds and teaches a child to stand up on his/her feet! She is the one who acts as the first school for the child. She teaches the child the basics of culture, behaviour and other essential aspects of life. She is the one who sows the seed of greatness in the child, which is only then nourished by the other factors of the child’s life. And she is there for them to help selflessly without expecting anything in return.
When I look back into my life since my birth, I played different roles. A loving daughter and a sister, a devoted wife, mother and a dutiful daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and a grandmother.

LOVED BEING A MOTHER AS A CREATOR

The best feeling I ever had was when I became the creator of the existence of my children. It was an incredible feeling that I could create life.

RAISING THEM RIGHT FOR A BETTER TOMORROW

Motherhood is a choice. When I made this choice, I honoured the privilege of taking responsibility to raise a kind, ethical and independent human being. This recent turn of events in the world has made it even more important that we raise our kids right, provide them with great values, and prepare them for a better tomorrow. Raising compassionate human beings than mere successful ones.

IT IS ALL ABOUT STRIKING A RIGHT BALANCE

I look for a balance in my life. I love my work as much as I love my family and myself. Loving my job doesn’t make me any less of a good mom.
I continued with my passion and dreams from my bucket list even after the age of 50. I participated in Ms India pageant 2019 and got the honour of being the first runner up and after that participated in the Ms India pageant at Chennai and was awarded the title of ‘Queen of Hope’.Running was another passion that created a more fulfilling, thrilling existence and made me feel runners high!

BLESSED TO BE A MOTHER PRINCIPAL

It’s a blessing to be in a profession that I was passionate about, which enabled me to have a more expansive lap of being a mother. Since school is the second home for the children, and as a teacher and a principal, I got the opportunity to be the second mother of thousands of students. It’s such a great feeling to be the inspiration for so many children and making them responsible and good human beings

IT’S ALL WORTH IT

It was challenging to manage kids, but at the end of the day- everything makes sense. When you become a mother, you inevitably become a multitasker! As the famous American author, Mitch Albom said, “When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.” No one can deny how much we all find peace and comfort in this unconditional love of a Mother.

A MOVIE MARATHON WITH YOUR MOM

If you’ve been apart, it is the perfect time to spend a little quality time with your mother, and what better way to spend that time than getting cosy on the couch to watch a movie that celebrates the relationships between mothers and their children. Here is a list; settle in for a marathon dedicated to your mom.

Stepmom
Adjusting to a new stepmother is tough on these kids, even when the stepmother in
question is Julia Roberts. This movie will definitely make you cry!

The Parent Trap
Throwback to all the tantrums we pulled on our moms as kids. It’s time to hug and say
sorry!

Little Women
Greta Gerwig’s adaptation of iconic book to your new favourite movie! Think of how much
you can bond over your collective love for Greta.

Bad Moms
Listen, being a mom is hard. Shout-out to Mila Kunis, Kristen Bell, and Kathryn Hahn for
keeping it real.

The Incredibles
Dedicating this classic to all the incredible moms who do it all. Appreciate them every day!

Dumplin
In this Netflix original, Jennifer Aniston plays a mom who also happens to be a former beauty queen, and since her daughter couldn’t be more different from her, their
relationship is complicated. The usual mother-daughter banter!

Anywhere But Here
In this movie, Susan Sarandon and Natalie Portman play a mother and daughter who move
to California together to pursue their Hollywood dreams, but things don’t go as planned.

Mother’s Day Special

Twice Better!

Rachel Goenka with Kabir

CEO & Founder of The Chocolate Spoon Company

“Balancing work and motherhood is a task! It takes a village to raise a child, and now that I have two, even more so,” says Rachel. Ever since the lockdown and closure of schools, like most mothers, it has become tougher to balance her two chocolate-sweet children! Priceless lessons, however, are in abundance! Learning, she concurs, is an ongoing process. “My son has taught me patience, and my daughter has taught me that I am capable of loving two children the same amount. They say your heart grows in size with each; I believe that now. Both my children have taught me how to be selfless. They have taught me how to be the best version of myself every single day so I can set a good example for them,” she adds. Humility and humanity is all that she expects them to imbibe from her upbringing.

Mum to Her Pets

Debina Bonnerjee with Pablo & Dexter

Indian actress

Unlike other mothers in this story, Debina is a special mom. Pablo and Dexter are her pets, and she is a perfect mom to them! Their relationship is deep, she concurs. “My relationship with my pet is that of a mother and son. I feel that he is a human child and who is forever an infant who cannot speak and say what he wants, and I’ve to understand.” For one, she has learnt some precious lessons from Pablo. “With Dexter, I feel lucky because he teaches me that by taking care of him, I cannot change the whole world, but I can change ‘his’ entire world. One becomes responsible and learns to love selflessly.

Grooming to be fearless!
Chahatt Khanna with Zoharr & Amairya

Indian film actress

Zoharr Khanna and Amairya Khanna are her two shining stars. “I try to balance my work and home by giving my children ample time and making sure that I put them to sleep and they wake up with me too! I pamper them on Sundays to make up for the week.” Being a mother has brought some significant change in her life, agrees Chahatt. “I have learnt being organized, learnt discipline and to save for the future,” she adds. She tells her daughters not to fear anyone and wishes to train them in martial arts. “When it comes to values, I want my daughters to be honest, grounded and strong,” agrees Chahatt. She encourages them to do what they like.

Lucky to have a daughter
Dr Neha Miglani

Media Analyst, Reseacher & Editor-in-Chief, The Lifestyle Journalist

“Motherhood is precious even though it’s very challenging for working mothers. I discovered that my focus towards work increased manifold ever since Gauri has arrived,” says Dr Neha Miglani. She completed her Post-Doctorate in Journalism after the arrival of her daughter and accomplished many other feat in the field of Media Research and Journalism around the same time. “I wish that my daughter has a strong emotional quotient. Only those who have strong fall back like good human values and spirituality can contribute to society and the environment. The journey is individualistic but guidance can surely be there!” she adds.

An Irreplaceable Feeling

Ashi Dua

Indian Film Producer & Entrepreneur

Founder of the production house, Flying Unicorn Entertainment, and producer of Netflix original Lust Stories, Bombay Talkies, and films like Kaalakaandi and Ghazi Attack, Ashi Dua is a mother to a sweet baby boy! “Fortunately we live in India and very grateful for the privilege of being also higher some really trustworthy nannies that really help us bring our children up, I am very sure a lot of people live with their grandparents and that’s also extremely helpful. But for me, I try and balance it. I try to be with him in the morning while he is playing and then I do my work and then when he is sleeping in the afternoon I try wrapping up everything and being available for him by 5 o’clock so by 5 to 8 he plays again and there for him,” she shares. She concurs that she learned the ‘Art of patience’ only with her baby! “Also just going with the flow is what I learn being around my child,” she adds. She shares how she wants her child to be kind to people, to animals, to the planet! “My mother always encouraged me to be independent emotionally and financially and that is what I would like my child to be!” adds Ashi.

Unconditional Love

Shivani Malik with Samaira

Director- Da Milano

Shivani needs no introduction. Her brand of luxury bags is every classy woman’s favorite. Sharing about her bond with her child here, she talks about work-home balance and more. “Every mother has to find her balance between motherhood and other priorities, as there is no definition or guidelines of perfect balance for a mother. I give my 100% wherever I am, whether at work or with kids. One should not feel guilty for choosing one over the other. I prefer to spend quality time with my children on weekends and weekdays; I focus on work more. Amidst motherhood and work, one should not forget that self-care is also essential,” she shares. Two important lessons that motherhood has taught her are patience and sacrifice and she owes a lot to her mother. “Integrity, humanity, and honesty I have learned from my mother. There are some lessons or characteristics that come only after being a mother,” she concurs. She has learnt to ‘give before you get from her mother. “One must not feel bad to apologize, I have learned this from my mother,” she adds. ‘Unconditional love is how she defines her bond with her daughter!

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GIFT IDEAS FOR YOUR MOM

Show your mom how much you appreciate all her sacrifices and love her. Let’s try to show your gratitude in the form of a gift, here are a few things she totally wouldn’t mind unwrapping on Mother’s Day. Here are all beautiful and thoughtful gift ideas for daughters to give their moms.

Coco Mademoiselle

CHANEL

Available at nordstrom.com

INR 6,127

One Year Roses

PRAIRIESANDPETAL

Available at Setsy.com

INR 10,984

Hidrate Spark 2.0 Smart Water Bottle

HIDRATE

Available at walmart.com

INR 3,661

Bedside Smartphone Vase

UNCOMMONGOOD

Available at Suncommongoods.com

INR 2,391

Ritual for Radiance Set

TATCHA

Available at sephora.com

INR 6,576

Classic Bathrobe

PARACHUTE HOME

Available at parachutehome.com

INR 7,399

Crosley Tourmaline Cruiser Bluetooth Record Player

CROSLEY

Available at amazon.com

INR 4,409

#mothersday #gifts #mothersday2021 #bestmom

Safe Haven : Zariin Mother’s Day Gift

Safe Haven: It’s true that we come alone to this world. But from the very moment we’re here, we’re looked after, we’re cared for, we are made to feel safe – all by our mothers. Zariin is here to help you make sure you have the perfect Mother’s Day Gift, this year. No matter where you are, choose your pick from our thoughtfully designed Mother’s Day Gift Guide and deliver a token of appreciation for your Mom.

It’s that time of the year that we celebrate those unsung heroes who make us feel loved, every minute of our lives. The ones who tell us to text them when we reach home. The ones who ping us to share our live location. The ones who remind us to stay hydrated. The ones who make sure we are well-fed. The ones who always have our back. The ones who will protect us no matter what.

The mothers.
The older siblings who parent you.
The fathers who mother you.
The mothers who don’t birth you but care for you just the same.
The mothers who wear many, many other hats but take them all off the minute you need
them.

This mother’s day, let us make them feel special, looked after, and cared for with the help of
our unique Mother’s Day Gift Guide.

For Those Who Nurture You
This Mother’s Day, Zariin celebrates and honours all those who nurture us with the launch of this special collection – ‘Safe Haven‘. This stunning 22kt gold dipped 3-piece jewellery collection exhibits a Safe Haven metamorphosed by a nest where the mother nurtures the child, knowing that soon, one day she will be ready to leave her nest. The child knows that no matter where she goes and how far she flies, this nest and her mom will always be a part of her. Our personal favourite is the ‘Wreath Of Life Drop Earrings’ that have a beautiful
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ALL EYES ON JASMIN BHASIN

With an unwavering resolve and an ardent zeal for her craft, Jasmin Bhasin has geared up for the long run. Her frankness, her candid wit is what makes her so interesting. One can’t help but connect with her. The other reason she’s on cloud nine is because of Bigg Boss and working on projects one after another. Happiness is her only pursuit – be it professional or personal. Here, she airs her views about the pandemic, her career, love, and life in general…

Congratulations for Bigg Boss. Your journey was full of surprises, and some ups and downs. How was your overall experience?

I consider my overall journey and experience as a journey of growth, realization. It has added to my life professionally and personally. It has given me immense popularity.

In what ways has Bigg Boss changed you?

I believe I am the same person who went inside. Bigg Boss hasn’t changed me. I have just learned to control my temper.

Did you make any friends on the show with whom you have been in touch, once the show ended?

I am in touch with almost everybody from the show. Everybody is doing really well post Bigg Boss and I am really happy to see them doing well

How has your relationship evolved with Aly after Bigg Boss?

We were friends, and it has always been a great bond but Bigg Boss made us realize that it was always more than just friendship and attachment. And, we were just living in denial. That realization and respect came after Bigg Boss. We are really enjoying this phase. It’s been beautiful after Bigg Boss and let’s hope it stays the same

I use organic saffron and neem face wash on my skin. I refrain from using medicated face washes; I use rose water and splash it on my skin. I make sure I use a very good hydrating moisturizer and before makeup, I prime and protect my skin. At night, no matter what time I pack up, I clean my makeup nicely with Cetaphil and then moisturize it and use a good night care routine with retinol and anti-aging ingredients. I also make sure to drink a lot of water to stay healthy and hydrated.

What were some of the silver linings of 2020 that you see yourself carrying in 2021?

Though we were struggling with Pandemic and locked up inside the good part was over the years I never had the time to take a break and I realized it is important to take a break and evaluate ourselves and our emotions after some time. I realized the importance of family and friends due to pandemics. And, I got my offer for Bigg Boss. All these things brought positivity to my life.

What do you love most about him?

I love his happy go lucky nature and how he adds charm and positivity around himself, with his presence, and how loving, protective and caring he is towards me.

What is your idea of an ideal romantic date?

Right now, I want to go to some beach with great food, music, weather.

Do you believe perfection is overrated?

Yes, it is because we all have flaws and nobody is perfect. So, we should accept our flaws, cherish and work on them. There is beauty and grace in accepting your flaws and being humble about them.

Is it safe to say you have evolved as an artist?

Yes, I have evolved as an artist and not as an artist but as a person too. It is important to evolve as an artist with time, with circumstances. From where I started to where I am, how confident I feel today. I want to take on challenges as an artist, as a performer. I would always want to keep evolving. I never want to put a full stop to learning and evolving

What does beauty mean to you today?

I think beauty means feeling confident and good about oneself. Everybody has different standards of beauty. We can never live up to others’ standards of beauty. I think everything is fine as long as you feel happy, and enhance your beauty, and feel confident in your skin. Everybody should embrace their flaws because your flaws make you different and that also adds to your beauty.

How important is mental health to you?

Mental health is very important I believe. It is as important as physical health. I have always felt we sometimes ignore the mental health of our friends, and family. I think the most important thing is mental health because if your mind is in the right state, it takes the right decision; it easier to live a positive, healthier and happier life. There is nothing wrong in accepting if we are suffering, as it can be treated and has a solution to it. The only problem is acceptance and we should learn to accept and work towards it.

Though we were struggling with Pandemic and locked up inside the good part was over the years I never had the time to take a break and I realized it is important to take a break and evaluate ourselves and our emotions after some time. I realized the importance of family and friends due to pandemics. And, I got my offer for Bigg Boss. All these things brought positivity to my life.

Has life turned out the way you imagined it?

Yes. I always imagined being successful in my career, having a happy positive personal life. Professionally, I am doing great since I started. Personal life, family life, everything is great. I hope it stays the same.

What are you most enjoying after getting out of the Bigg Boss house?

The most I am enjoying is eating food, traveling, and meeting my friends. We had restricted things to eat in the house and now I can eat everything I want anytime.

Please tell us about your fitness routine.

I make sure I work out 3-4 days a week, high-intensity workout for 45 minutes to one hour, and do some yoga. I eat anything and everything that makes me happy.

Share your skincare ritual you swear by?

I use organic saffron and neem face wash on my skin. I refrain from using medicated face washes; I use rose water and splash it on my skin. I make sure I use a very good hydrating moisturizer and before makeup, I prime and protect my skin. At night, no matter what time I pack up, I clean my makeup nicely with Cetaphil and then moisturize it and use a good night care routine with retinol and anti-aging ingredients. I also make sure to drink a lot of water to stay healthy and hydrated.

The first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

I drink a warm glass of water with some turmeric, honey, lime in it so that it kick-start my metabolism.

A motto you live by?

I believe over thinking is never a solution to anything. Live life as it comes. Give your best to every opportunity you get. Stay positive and stay happy!

What do you hope to do differently with your time, to prioritize your own happiness?

For myself, I would love baking, shopping for myself, going to the spa, pampering myself, and playing with my dogs.

How has Jasmin changed over the last decade?

I think I have not changed but grown, evolved, and matured. I have more understanding about the seriousness of work and have become more disciplined.

What are other exciting projects in the pipeline?

A lot of things are in pipeline. I am in talks for a couple of web-series, Punjabi Films, music videos. Let’s see what materializes first. The audience will get to see my music videos first which I have done

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Top Health Tips from Top Doctors

It is interesting to find what the doctors do themselves in their personal lives to stay healthy and fit. Here are some basic norms that these leading doctors suggest and follow themselves to stay healthy!

Dr. Piyush Ranjan, Additional Professor, Department of Medicine, AIIMS, New Delhi is an obesity and metabolic health expert who has with several research publications in this field. His area of expertise includes medical and lifestyle based management of various obesity related diseases such as diabetes, fatty liver etc.

5 Top Tip

Stay active to stay away from lifestyle diseases. Regular exercise is important for physical as well as mental health.
Eat right. Focus not just on quantity but also on quality of your daily meals. Cut away mainly on packaged and sugary foods.
Hydrate yourself well. Water is very important to flush out body waste, aid digestion, prevent constipation and maintain electrolyte balance in the body.
Weigh yourself weekly. Regular weight monitoring helps to keep track body weight and better weight management.
Get plenty of sleep, stress less and smile more often!

Dr. Sanjay Agarwal, Professor and Head, department of Nephrology, AIIMS, New Delhi. With more than 35 years of academic nephrology experience and one can depend on him to save his or her kidney.

5 Top tips

1 Adequate fluid
2 Balanced diet
3 Regular exercise
4 Regular screening tests if you are at risk for kidney disease
5 Regular treatment and follow-up for diabetes and hypertension if one have any of this

Prof. Sushmita Ghoshal, Head, Department of Radiotherapy, Regional Cancer Centre, PGIMER, Chandigarh gives some health tips for management of cancer- her own medical expertise.

Top 5 Tips

1 Avoid tobacco – 40% of cancers diagnosed in our country are related to tobacco abuse.
2 Be aware of early signs of common cancers – go for screening.
3 Cancer can be cured if detected early – insist on treatment by experts.
4 Demand good quality cancer treatment facilities in Medical Colleges and health centres as part of Universal Health Care.
5 Explore the role of palliative care for relief of symptoms caused by cancer.

Dr. Satyavati Rana, Professor at AIIMS Rishikesh, worked more than 43 years for role of nutrition in prevention of diseases. She was a non-invasive Postdoctoral fellow at St. Louis University, USA & Visiting Professor for two years in Ghana Medical School, West Africa offered by Commonwealth Secretariat, London.

5 Top Tips

1 Drink at least 10 to 12 glasses of water every day even without feeling thirsty. This is required to keep over intestine clean.
2 Drink half kg milk (125ml at a time 4 times in a day) every day to avoid calcium deficiency. Curd is better than milk.
3 Frequent small meals are better than large meals at a time with long intervals. This will be beneficial to control acidity and flatulence.
4 Individuals, who have acidity, should not eat green and red chilies. This will help them to control their acidity.
5 One must eat green leafy vegetables and fruits every day to keep gut micro biota healthy.

Dr. Vivek Mohan, a leading Homeopath from the region, who pursued his masters in Homeopathy from London after completing MBBS in India. He has been the honorary physician to the Governor of Haryana and has taken Homeopath to a new level in the region, with indepth knowledge of the field.

5 Top Tips

1 We all enjoy reasonable levels of immunity, so don’t panic about it during pandemic times.
2 While leaving home, always have some nutritious dish. Never be empty stomach!
3 Through the week enjoy a variety of food dishes. This gives us good ingredients from various food dishes.
4 Hand hygiene, face mask and social distancing are basic norms, which can easily help combat COVID-19.
5 Have regular medical consultation with your family physician and follow his/ her advice regarding staying healthy. Sound mind in a sound body must be our target!

Dr Rajesh Dhir is a leading ENT consultant and Hair Transplant Surgeon from Chandigarh, India. Some of his honourary positions include serving as the President for the Session 2019-2020, Indian Medical Association (IMA) Chandigarh branch and President (North West Zone) Association of Otolaryngology of India for 2015-16.

5 Top Tips

1 Refrain from using ear buds as they are a misnomer
2 Avoid exposure to very high frequency noises such as regular exposure to DJ, parties etc
3 Use tongue cleaner with caution. Use soft tongue cleaners rather than the hard metallic ones.
4 Take regular steams and gargles when exposed to the outside virus which stays in the nasopharynx.
5 Don’t relax on the COVID norms and protocols as the fight is not over yet

Staying Fit is Simply Possible : Dr. Padma Srivastava

Prof Padma, Head of Neurology at AIIMS, New Delhi, has a string of achievements to her credit she enlists some simple, intelligent ways to stay fit!

Five Healthy Lifestyle Choices

1.No smoking
2.No alcohol
3.A body mass index less then 25
4.Daily exercise for 30 minutes
5.A healthy diet score in the top 40% had an 80% reduction of stroke compared with participants who achieved none!

Improve Lifestyle

Rate of cardiovascular mortality in people with stroke over a 10 year period is reduced by 90% on engaging in lifestyle behaviors such as eating sufficient fruits and vegetables, exercising, maintaining a BMI of < 29 Kg/m 2 and not smoking!

Lower Blood Pressure!

GOAL- Maintain a blood pressure level not more than 120/80 mm Hg. How to achieve it?

Reduce salt in your diet. Ideally not more than half a teaspoon per day.
More polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats in the diet and avoid saturated fats.
4 to 5cups of fruits and vegetables per day; one serving of fish two to three times a week and several daily servings of whole grains and low fat dairy.
Get more exercise – atleast 30 minutes of activity per day.
Quit smoking. Period!

Exercise- Its very important!

GOAL- Exercise at a moderate intensity at least five days a week. How to achieve it?

Take a walk around your neighborhood every day.
Start a fitness club with friends
When you exercise reach a level at which your breathing hard but you can still talk.
Take the stairs instead of the elevator.
If you don’t have a consecutive 30 minutes to exercise, break it up into 10 or 15 minute sessions a few times a day.

Keep weight under check

GOAL- Ideal BMI 25 or less
How to achieve it?

Try to eat no more than 1500 t 2000 calories per day.
Increase the amount of exercise you do like walking, playing, or making activity a part of every single day.

Dr. Padma Srivastava
MD, DM, FRCP (Eidin), FAMS, FNASc, FIAN, FNA
Professor, Head, Department of Neurology
Chief, Neurosciences Center
AIIMS, New Delhi
Hon, Professor, UCLAN, UK.

An Interesting Tale of a Self-Made Doctor : Dr. Sanjay K. Agarwal

Dr. Sanjay K. Agarwal, Professor and current Head of Department of Nephrology at AIIMS, New Delhi is an example of ‘creating one’s own destiny’. He says his biggest achievement in career has been ‘to get a faculty position in AIIMS, New Delhi with his own hard-work and without any Godfather’! For those young medicos, who wish to enter public hospitals and institutions, his story is stirring and worth reading. Your hard-work can surely help you achieve your dream. Here is his take on kidney health and more, from his vast academic nephrology experience…

Kidney stones are the most commonly heard and encountered problem. How does one avoid it and deal with it?

It is not most common but one of the common kidney problems. Regular intake of 2-3litre water is the best avoiding approach. If family history of stone disease, then regular ‘check-up’ from early stage of life for stone. Once a stone is found in patient, then regular ‘follow-up’ irrespective of any symptoms of stone is important. It is neglect of asymptomatic stone, which causes permanent kidney damage.

Please tell us about the top 3 path-breaking inventions/findings of AIIMS Nephrology department in the recent past.

ICMR, New Delhi funded study coordinated by Nephrology AIIMS found mean prevalence of chronic kidney disease in seven cities across India to be 9.4% of adult urban population. Nephrology department has done extensive research on magnitude and treatment of hepatitis C in renal replacement therapy, which is being followed up by many other centers. Lastly, various aspect of IgA nephropathy has been studied in the department.

There has been a lot of debate, discussion and disagreement on this topic among medical fraternity and students. But what is your opinion on a multi-dimensional/multi-disciplinary approach towards treating patients (that includes natural sciences like Ayurveda and Homeopathy) and not just allopath?

‘Every pathy’ is a science and has its own strength and limitations. I am personally against using multiple-disciplines at the same time on one patient. Neither can one interpret benefit nor side effect of any one of them. Experts of each discipline should know the limitation of that discipline and should not make tall claims. Patient should choose one therapy and restrict to it till he/she decides to go to other discipline.

What would you like to suggest to patients who are either on dialysis or have kidney transplants?

I will suggest that they must have a positive attitude and must trust the treatment. Take good diet and adequate treatment. Organize your finances well in advance while continuing your treatment. Take help of your friends and close family members. With all these, one can lead a reasonably good quality of life and will be useful to society and own family.

Top mantra to keep kidneys healthy
Adequate fluid, balanced diet, regular exercise, regular screening tests if you are at risk for kidney disease, regular treatment and follow-up for diabetes and hypertension if one have and no self-medication.

How is your fitness routine?
I used to play badminton but with twice ankle sprain, lost confidence and stopped playing. Intermittent walking and exercise at home is my major fitness activity.

Please tell us about the kind of food you take (your diet regime). Any special things that you personally take care of on your platter?
I am pure vegetarian. I usually avoid extra salt and fat in diet overall. Do not eat outside home, except once in a while. Fond of fruits and it is important component of diet.

What is your personal philosophy of life?

I have taken life seriously, which I should not have taken. I often take stand against the wrong being done, which may not be against me but still I raise a voice. Obviously, this is not taken in correct perspective by majority. I, by nature, am a perfectionist and try to do give my best in any activity that I take in my hand. I have my own opinion on any issue and do not hesitate to express that, whatever is the forum

Your topmost career achievement so far?

Being selected as faculty in AIIMS Delhi without having any political connection and without having any godfathe

If you could change one thing in Indian medical scenario, what would that be?

All health care of the country should be public funded and doctors in public infrastructure should be appropriately rewarded both financially as well as administratively.

How do you handle everyday stress that comes along with this profession?

Day today small achievements in the profession are the best stress buster for me. Also, I do not get stress of any kind from my department colleagues, which is a major satisfaction in institute like AIIMS

Your advice to young medical aspirants (particularly Nephrologists).
It is a very good branch and covers significant part of other specialty as well as internal medicine. If you are good in subject, you will also be good in overall medicine.

What are your hobbies?
Watching TV, playing Chess and making slide presentations for academic purpose.

Was there any low point in your career, where you thought of quitting this profession? If yes, please share.
I am in this institute since 1985 and I had my own share of differences with administration. Like all intellectuals would have at a given place. Because of that, at times I thought of leaving institute as I was not able to give my best to the institute! This is my honest answer.

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“I am not here to pass time;

I am here to contribute,

as best as I can.”

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ALL EYES ON JASMIN BHASIN

Top Health Tips from Top Doctors

It is interesting to find what the doctors do themselves in their personal lives to stay healthy and fit. Here are some basic norms that these leading doctors suggest and follow themselves to stay healthy!

Staying Fit is Simply Possible : Dr. Padma Srivastava

Prof Padma, Head of Neurology at AIIMS, New Delhi, has a string of achievements to her credit she enlists some simple, intelligent ways to stay fit!

An Interesting Tale of a Self-Made Doctor : Dr. Sanjay K. Agarwal

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